Three questions to ask

When we stuck in a situation in our lives, I think there are three most important questions to ask ourselves.

One of them is what the difficulty that makes us suffer from the most at the moment is, or simply put it, what 'the problem' is.  

Usually we think that we know that, but in fact almost always we neglect or ignore it, being overwhelmed by the phenomena caused by the problem. 

Dreadful results are depressing but it is only after the real problem that brought about the results has been tackled when we can truly expect to be able to overcome the problematic situations. 

Then the next question is what would be the most meaningful thing to do at the moment for our lives, or in other words,what is 'the most important thing' is.

Again we are often unaware of it, unlike our belief that we know that. 

The last question to ask ourselves is how to solve the problem (or to eliminate the difficulty) so that we can maintain the most important thing in our lives. 

Here, in this third question, it is worthwhile paying attention to the word 'maintain'. 

The word that is chosen is not 'achieve' but 'maintain'.

Because, in most cases, we are already holding the most important thing in our lives at the moment. 

Just we are not aware of the fact that it is the most important thing for ourselves. 

It is only after we lose it when we realise that it was the the most important thing for our lives. 

And the time of realisation is mostly the time when we traded off the most important thing that we had held until then with the new one that we set as our goal or dream to pursue and achieve. 

However, in most cases we do not even find that we lost the most important thing in our lives in the trade-off, because our consciousness also shifts our priorities so that our mind can get used to the fact that we no longer hold what had been the most important thing. 

During the process of paying its cost, we substitute the previous one with the new one, which we have begun to hypnotise ourselves to be the most important thing in our lives from the moment on.